One way to look at the law of attraction
Jul 21st, 2008 by spaceagesage
Think back if you will to a time you felt the most supported and loved. It doesn’t matter where or when, or if it was a real moment in time or imagined.
- How did it feel to be so accepted for who and what you are?
- Where you able to breathe easier and relax your muscles and mind?
- Did you feel a wave of peace or a boost of soothing energy?
- Did your senses increase to see, hear, and feel more than usual or did that all fade?
- Was it so powerful you can still feel it in your heart?
~ As most of my readers know, this the 10th installment in a series on Building Confidence by Overcoming Insecurity. The first post in the series is here. In this post, we explore how we often repel what we want.
For certain insecure people, moments of such support and love rarely exist. We may push them away because we don’t feel worthy, we may negate them with a critical thought, or we may simply be unable to let the moment enter our fortress-like heart for fear of being hurt again.
In my case, it used to be all of the above. Part of me still repels love, appreciation, and empathy. It is like those two bar magnets that push each other away when you face similar magnetic ends together. The bigger the magnets, the harder it is to push against the force keeping them apart.
Sound familiar?
Do you tend to repel the following?
- Positive comments
(Your really think I look nice in this? I think it makes me look fat.) - Failure as a learning tool and stepping stone to success
(I’m a failure and always will be.) - Opportunities
(I don’t know. It seems like such a stretch for me to do this.) - Appreciation
(Oh, it was nothing, really.) - Genuine affection
(I can’t get friendly with my employees.) - Loving advice
(I’m happy. I don’t care if you think he’s an abuser. Leave me alone.) - Silver lining thinking
(I just know this is going to turn out badly.) - A friendly offer of help
(Thanks, but no, I’m fine. I got it covered.) - Learning moments
(I hate when workers don’t just shut up and do their jobs.) - Support
(No thanks. I don’t need anyone or any religion telling me what to do or think.)
If you turn one bar magnet around so that the ends are facing their polar opposite, the power of attraction begins suddenly and forcefully.
I’m curious how others deal with this: How can you “turn yourself around” to attract instead of repel moments of positive interaction or personal development?
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~ More on this subject in future posts.
As an undergrad student at a large university, things got tough for me at times. Between school, family and work pressures I noticed that my mood turned to one of negativity and frustration. When offered help I would say (as you stated) “no thanks. I got it covered.” Which in retrospect was a mistake…
In any case, I always found shelter in two things: reading a good book & running (especially running &/or basketball). It gave me the space to think clearly about everything. For that moment that moment in time when I was running, I was free…I could think clearly. Anyway, it gave me the clarity to focus on the core issues that were inspiring my negative thoughts.
My point is, if we can find a way to see what the root of the problem is, we can deal with it appropriately.
Ricardo —
I find getting the mind moving and exercising are great, too.