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Ramrod, doormat, or … ?

Many of us are uncomfortable setting boundaries and may be uncomfortable saying things like: “It’s not OK that you’re late constantly.” “It was really thoughtless of you to borrow that book of mine for your project and return it all beat up.” “I don’t want work calls at home unless it’s a real emergency.” “I […]

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People pleasing craziness

My last post mentioned the emotional drain that perfectionism can have on a person. Another aspect of my perfectionism is people pleasing – the tendency to make decisions in order to never rock the boat in a relationship. Some of the crazy-making irrational beliefs that stem from people pleasing are listed at coping.org: I must […]

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Time for me to move beyond “shoulds.” The problem with “shoulding on” myself or others is the amount of negatives that come with it. It might sound good to say, “I should clean up the house, get a job, start volunteering more, save the world,” but underneath those shoulds are the idea that if I […]

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I am going through a big change in my life at this sage age of 48, and you are invited to take the journey with me via this blog. Until now, I led a life of pushing myself by sheer will power; by driving myself with the urgings of perfectionism and my family‚Äôs culture of […]

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